Tag: Hypnosis

I Choose Me

Posted on by dolphin24

Today is Day 66 of I Choose Me, a practice I have done several times now since getting sober over 8 years ago. Each time I have huge revelations. I commit to 90 days of choosing myself first. If you are like me, putting yourself first may seem self indulgent and selfish but what I have realized each time I do this, it means I show up as my best self for myself and others!

When I first started this 90 days, I was actually writing, “I Chose Me” for the first few weeks. It must have been a subconscious attempt to get me to meditate on a deeper truth…this past tense of making a choice….eventually had me contemplating an idea I have always loosely held. Namely, that prior to my arrival on the earth at this point and time, a greater version of myself made a choice to show up as “Me”. Now I have done my best to analyze and figure out what that mechanism is and I could write an entire book on all of my hypothesis but needless to say, I have given up on solving the true nature of reality and have allowed myself the beautiful gift of the Unknown!

Yet, writing I Chose Me, led me to blossom in my gratitude for the being I have shown up as. To open up to an acceptance that Who I am, as Jen, this small human vessel with all of her personality traits, life stories, patterns and experiences is More Than Enough! I am playing my own perfect role as imperfectly as possible so I can inJoy what it means to be the human everyone calls, Jen.

So I realized my subconscious “auto-correct” typo, contemplated it deeply and moved forward to make the daily Choice to continue to show up for me first. This process of revelations that come whenever I have committed and consistently followed through on choosing me, has been amazing for my personal growth.

When I began this 66 days ago, my main focus was on my eating and exercise habits. I decided to quit consuming any sugar including breads & pastas. I was also doing at least 15 minutes of exercise every day. After two weeks, feeling more balanced in my body the focus naturally began to shift. Just the act of writing those words at the top of my journal each morning before doing a quick brain dump, had me focused on my own needs more and more.

I quickly realized that it is easier for me to focus on everyone else’s needs then to take care of myself. An old family pattern popped up that says, 

“I believe you only love me if you will go out of your way, sacrificing yourself, to meet my needs without me even needing to ask you!” 

and vice versus….I will spend countless amounts of time and energy anticipating Your needs and taking care of them to show you how much I love you. 

This new subconscious belief that “me” taking care of “me”, as an act of self love, rather than selfishness and “you” taking care of “you” is healthy. Rather than being enmeshed with each other will  feel validated in who I am and feel that “love” is present.

Pretty big realization!!! Of course, I was doing some self hypnosis and listening to recordings that facilitated this type of awareness but it was this practice of sitting every morning and re-commiting to  Choosing Me, that even created space for that to appear.

Now that this realization is in my conscious mind what do I do with it?

It also goes along with this daily “I Choose ME!” 

I have to re-commit on a daily basis to focus on meeting my needs and to let others take care of meeting their own needs. This may sound simple but for someone who used to be an overly responsible, Type A, people pleaser this is a continued journey. I have been doing additional self hypnosis…which in my world, as a hypnotherapist, this means I take myself through an entire session. 

I am happy to say that through this experience, I have recognized that I need to make a concerted effort to grow my own Hypnotherapy business, rather than putting all of my energy and time into growing someone else’s company. I am also happy to say it is getting easier and easier to directly ask for my needs to be met, to meet my own needs first rather than waiting for others to magically intuit what I want and do it for me AND I am meeting my own needs regularly NOW…in just a few months!

If you are interested in meeting your own needs to, reach out to me for private one on one hypnotherapy sessions! And I’ll let you know even more about what I am doing to meet my own needs daily.

Now you see it, now you don’t!

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Now you see it, now you don’t! Do you ever get a flash in your peripheral view and image you saw something that wasn’t there? Has someone ever pointed out a bird up in a tree, and as you squint in the direction they are pointing you think, they must be crazy, I don’t see anything! You can’t believe everything you see, the magician reminds us. Optical illusions are a plenty in the artistry around us.

We have so many way of seeing the world, we each have our own perspective. Do you remember hanging upside down on the monkey bar in your grade school play ground and imagining the world had been turned around and the sky was now on the ground? Life is like that. We can shift our perspective and suddenly life has a completely different view. If we can have different views of our own life, how many view can exist in the world…at least as many as there are people.

Everyone has their own view of how they see the world. This view is based on life experience. Just go to a museum and you will see how each person will be appreciating different pieces or the same piece in a different way. Two people may be standing side by side admiring the same work of art and yet, each sees something completely different. Our lives are works of art. So why shouldn’t we admire our own work of art as being a beautiful creation?

Do you trust the view you have of your life? Or do you accept other critics reviews of your work of art? Maybe you have family and friends who see your life as amazing because you are successful at a job that you feel robs your soul. Perhaps your life experience is the complete opposite. You have a relationship that you cherish but those around you wish you would run away from because they don’t believe that other person is “right for you”.

When viewing your life do you keep your lens focused on a view that makes you feel good or do you keep getting distracted by the things that others point out to you? When you close your eyes and take a moment to really see your life from your own point of view, you can begin to trust what you see. You can begin trusting your lens. Trusting that your view of you life is true. Knowing the it is perfectly ok for you to trust what you see.

Each of us can respect our view of life and allow others the same respect. When we respect different perspective, the world is a richer place to live in. We can still listen to what others see but we can practice trusting our own view of our life. Awareness is the first step to change. If we have been listening to the point of view of others for most of our lives, it may take some time before we can even begin to see from our own perspective.

This is why it is so important to go inside. To close our eyes and connect in to our mind’s eye. Our mind’s eye sees beyond what others tell us we should see. Our mind’s eyes sees beyond what we think we should see. Our mind’s eye has the uncanny ability to show us our truth. With practice we can begin to trust this truth more and more. We can begin to trust our own view of how our life is unfolding and where we would like to go. We can begin to trust ourselves.

Open your eyes to your truth, to trusting that is perfect and right for you to have your own perspective. Your perspective is valid. Only you know the amazing possibilities you can see for yourself. Trust those! Enjoy the view of your life, it is the only one that counts!

If you enjoyed watching this video and you’d like to go deeper into Trusting Your Truth, then I’ve got a free downloadable recording for you. Just add your name & email and download it now.

Then when you are really ready to live your authentic life, trusting your truth, reach out for a one on one sessions with me. 

I look forward to supporting you in living your best life.

So much love, Jen

Can You Trust Your Feelings when “Big girls don’t cry”?

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Big girls don’t cry…

Boy don’t cry…

How are you? I’m fine.

What do these messages all have in common? Really expressing what you are feeling is not acceptable. How many people, when asked how they are, would respond…actually I’m feeling a little confused right now. I’m slightly irritated yet also hopeful all at the same time…how about you?

Let alone, if you asked them how are you and they burst out crying. So even in the face of a huge loss in our life, even during a huge positive transition…most people will put s small smile on their face and reply, “I’m good.” or some other equally benign reply.

What happens when we have been trained since infancy to keep a lid on our emotions? To keep our feelings to ourselves? We begin to lose touch with our feelings? We confuse sadness and grief or even fear with anger. We confuse lust and attraction with love. We confuse excitement with anxiousness. And this is at best…most of the time we keep ourselves so distracted through social media, by the constant go, go, go of modern living that we don’t even know what we are feeling.

We have stopped feeling in the whirlwind of busy.

We don’t even allow ourselves to feel our exhaustion as we crash into bed at the end of the night. So how are you supposed to trust your feelings when you don’t even know what they are? That is the power behind hypnotherapy. It cuts right to the chase and connects with your subconscious mind. Your subconscious is where your feelings are stored. Your body communicates what it is feelings through your subconscious.

All you need to do is relax, connect in and your feelings will reveal themselves. Remember your feelings are nothing to avoid. They are there to give you an important message. When you listen to your feelings, when you trust your feelings, you can hear the message they want to communicate. So many times, we just need to listen to ourselves. Listen to your feelings and allow them to pass. You can trust them.

The more you practice listening to your feelings the easier it becomes to understand the message they have for you. Just like a trusted friend that you appreciate listening to you, when you need to talk, so too your feelings appreciate when you listen. Knowing that the are there to give you an important message that you can trust.

You don’t have to go around sharing your deepest feelings with everyone you meet but you can begin to share them with your inner most self.

If you liked this video and you’d like to go deeper into Trusting Your Truth, enjoy a free downloadable recording. 

Then when you are really ready to live your authentic life, trusting your truth, reach out for one on one sessions. 

I look forward to supporting you in living your best life.

So much love, Jen